Dear Sista Friend, It’s been roouugghh. “Senioritis” was so real as I entered this last semester of coursework. But even before then I struggled through burn out. Going to school straight through with no breaks is for the birds (stay tuned for blog post)! This semester has been even worse because I’m so close I […]
Casual Conversations
Jealousy. Envy. That ugly green monster. (Why is it always described as green?)
Dear Sista Friend, True Life – I get jealous. It isn’t a loud, hateful insecurity that causes rude behavior or meanness, though this behavior definitely did occur at one point in my life. Now (I cannot believe I am admitting this!), I quietly covet lives that aren’t mine and hold on to subtle resentment like […]
Stepping Out On Faith
Dear Sista Friend, As my first year in my doctoral program comes to an end I’ve been reflecting on everything that has happened. I have experienced so much change! I graduated with my masters, quit my full-time salaried job (I miss my coins), moved across the country, started a doctoral program where I didn’t know […]
Race First or Gender? You Don’t Have To Choose
Dear Sista Friend, People often ask “are you Black first or woman first?”, as if those identities somehow exist in two separate vacuums. As if when I walk outside each day, I can cover up my Black skin or willingly hide the fact that I am a woman. I have no desire to do either…I […]
Failure Isn’t A Bad Thing
Dear Sista Friend, I’ve failed a lot. Sometimes they were huge, horrible mistakes that affected my personal life. Other times they were just “bumps” in the professional road. I have been the brunt of excoriating humiliation and embarrassed in front of other co-workers. I have also been called out in meetings and in conference rooms […]